Stop performing.
Start living.
Coaching and community for men who are done with the performance and ready to build something real.
Identity. Clarity.
Direction.
Most men reach a point where the external looks right and the internal doesn't. Career, family, the things they built all of it present. The feeling of alignment absent.
This is the work. Not motivation. Not inspiration. A structured process for understanding who you actually are and building from there.
90 days. One direction. As you are.
Five pillars.
One direction.
See clearly where you actually are before trying to change anything.
Stop trying to fix everything. Identify the 1–3 things that move the needle.
Build a personal operating system values that are genuinely yours.
Translate vision into a concrete 90-day direction. Specific. Grounded.
Move. Learn. Adjust. Small and compounding over time.
Alex
Vigilante.
I am not a guru at the top of a mountain.
I spent years doing what I was supposed to do. Building what I was supposed to build. Showing up as the version of myself that earned approval from the world around me.
I also spent years feeling hollow in ways I could not explain and would not admit.
The work in this program is the work that changed that. Every concept I have lived. Every chapter I have walked through, struggled with, and carried with me.
I am a bridge-builder, connector, and space-holder committed to helping you move past apathy into a life of fulfillment and alignment, grounded in love, awareness, and happiness.
Come as you are.
Five pillars. One direction.
Before anything else, you have to see clearly. We examine where you actually are your energy, your patterns, your identity, and what has been quietly running the show.
Most men are busy in all the wrong directions. We identify what actually matters and cut everything else. Clarity of priority is the foundation of a life that moves forward with intention.
A man without principles is a man living by default. We build yours not inherited ones, not borrowed ones the values and commitments that are genuinely yours.
Vision without a map is just a wish. We translate who you are becoming into a concrete 90-day direction specific, grounded, built around the life you are trying to create.
Action is the only bridge that exists. We move, we learn, we adjust. Small and compounding over time this is how a man becomes who he was always meant to be.
90 days.
One direction.
A 90-day identity and integration process for men who are tired of performing, ready to live with intention, and committed to becoming who they were always meant to be.
- Twelve 60-minute coaching sessions
- Full Life Audit
- Priority Reset Framework
- Personal Values & Principles Work
- Future Self Blueprint
- 90-Day Roadmap
- Weekly Accountability
- Breathwork & Nervous System Tools
- Personal Operating Manual
Bi-weekly, 1 hour live sessions focused on alignment, authenticity, and integration of practices.
Voice memos and texts as needed for real-time check-ins, questions, or reflections between scheduled sessions.
Three additional 1-hour Conscious Connected Breathwork ceremonies, held once a month.
A written follow-up after each touchpoint containing a session recap, two lifework assignments, and one stretch assignment.
"Don't fake it till you make it face it till you make it."
As You Are Chapter 8 · AnxietyWhat we cover.
"What is the honest state of your foundation and what has it been costing you?"
"Whose thoughts are you actually living by and how would you even know?"
"Who are you when no one is watching and how close is that to who you actually show up as?"
"What are you avoiding and what is that avoidance holding you from?"
"What do you love enough to suffer for? Are you actually living it?"
"How much of what feels urgent this week will matter in a year?"
"Are you living the life you are building or just focused on the building?"
"Is your life designed, borrowed, or accumulated?"
"What are you actually here for?"
"Who are you and what are you going to do about it?"
- Has achieved things on paper but feels something is missing
- Is tired of performing and wants to be himself
- Knows what he should do but can't make himself do it
- Wants accountability that is honest, not comfortable
- Is ready to do real work, not just think about it
- Is looking for quick fixes or life hacks
- Wants to be told what he wants to hear
- Is not prepared to be honest about where he actually is
- Is looking for motivation without commitment
- Thinks the work is for other men, not him
Come as you are.
A private mountain retreat just outside Asheville, NC.
The Rising As You Are Retreat is a thematic growth catalyst designed for highly successful men who are ready to shed old identities, face every part of themselves, and step into their potential.
Three days. Three nights. A fully guided, in-person initiation held in a private mountain home designed for depth, focus, and embodiment.
Reserve Your Spot
Everything you need.
Nothing you don't.
3 Days / 3 Nights Stay
A fully guided, in-person initiation held in a private mountain home designed for depth, focus, and embodiment.
Chef-Prepared Premium Meals
All meals included. Fresh, nourishing, performance-focused food to support recovery and clarity.
Embodied Masculinity Training
Practices rooted in presence, grounding, movement, and nervous system regulation.
Breathwork & Regulation
Dynamic and sonic neural breathwork to release tension, access deeper awareness, and regulate the nervous system.
Shadow Work & Integration
IFS-informed exploration of patterns, stories, and inner drivers shaping your behavior with structured integration to carry it forward.
Brotherhood & Accountability
Sacred men's council and accountability containers for integration and growth. Post-retreat virtual integration support circle available.
What you carry
out of the mountain.
Deeper sense of personal power, purpose, and emotional ownership
Clear understanding of personal patterns, behaviors, and life potential
Renewed confidence in embodied masculinity
Practical tools for breathwork and nervous system regulation
Brotherhood and accountability with aligned men
A roadmap for momentum and self-mastery
The tools we
work with.
Conscious Connected Breathwork Ceremony
Masculine embodiment practices
IFS-informed parts work and shadow work
Cold exposure and breath-body regulation
Conscious communication and sacred men's council
Silence and solitude practices
Integration mapping and accountability containers
Four days.
One turning point.
Thursday
4:00 PM – 10:00 PM
Arrival & Initiation
Arrival and introductions. Opening dinner. Facilitator initiation share. Movement, breathwork, and sacred men's council. The first step of a different kind of weekend.
Friday
8:00 AM – 10:00 PM
Regulation & Shadow
Morning practices and nervous system education. Shadow work and free time. Sonic neural breathwork and parts work in the evening. Going where most men don't go.
Saturday
8:00 AM – 10:00 PM
Embodiment & Expression
Masculine embodiment practices and conscious communication. Journaling and reflection. Sonic neural breathwork and integration circles. The work becomes your own.
Sunday
6:00 AM – 10:30 AM
Integration & Return
Sunrise silence hike and intention setting. Integration guidance and closing facilitator remarks. You leave different than you arrived.
The men leading the way.
The Rising As You Are Retreat is led by a team of experienced facilitators devoted to helping you rise.
Alex Vigilante
Alex is the founder of Vigilante Rising and a facilitator devoted to embodied leadership, nervous-system health, and men's work. He bridges modern neuroscience with lived experience, creating grounded spaces for clarity, accountability, and self-mastery. He supports men in moving from overthinking into embodied action and alignment.
Anthony "AJay" Wells
AJay is a men's wellness guide, breathwork facilitator, and founder of Axis Ori. His work is rooted in nervous system regulation, disciplined self-leadership, and inner alignment. Drawing from lived experience, ancient practices, and modern science, AJay creates spaces for men to slow down, confront their patterns, and build a life led from clarity rather than impulse.
"The version of you that you want to become is built through the challenges you're currently avoiding."
As You Are Chapter 11 · DifficultyA guide for the man who feels like life is moving faster than he can make sense of it.
This is about self-discovery, self-exploration, and personal growth. As You Are explores 23 topics carefully chosen for their relevance across history, cultures, and walks of life that together form a practical guide to knowing yourself more deeply and living more intentionally.
You won't find clichés here. You won't find empty motivation or toxic positivity. What you will find is a well-considered path, written by someone who has been in your shoes and is still in them.
Get Your CopyThree parts. Twenty-three chapters.
"Health is not a destination. You don't arrive at it. You simply stay in relationship with it."
"Life is not what happens to you. It is how you respond and that response begins in the mind."
"Anxiety is not a warning to stop. It is a signal that something meaningful is right in front of you."
"The goal is to stop performing in your life and start living it."
"Not every setback is a setback. Sometimes you just can't see it because you're too close to the moment."
"It is either one day or day one. You get to choose."
No funnels.
No bots.
Real people.
Questions about the program, the retreat reach out directly. Every message gets a real response.
Virtual available everywhere